Author: Praise Ejiro
Date Published: 12-Aug-2023 11:38:21am
Topic: Advice, Love and relationship, Relationship
Getting married to the ones we love does not put an end to other friendships outside the four walls of your matrimonial home be it with same sex or opposite sex.
There is nothing wrong with that. As a matter of fact, love does not end in marriage. It goes beyond marriage to other persons because we are meant to show love.
However, I think it's very important to understand the place of boundaries when dealing with friendship with the opposite sex outside your marriage. Inasmuch as we need to show love to others, we still need to be careful especially when we are dealing with the opposite sex because a lot of things have affected some person's ideologies.
Sometimes, your act of good can be misinterpreted especially when it's being extended to the opposite sex. You are only showing love and care but someone is quietly being led on unknown to you.
Hence, there is a need to know the place of boundaries. Your husband having another lady or woman as his best friend or your wife having another man as his best friend can either be harmful or harmless.
This kind of relationship might actually appear ordinary to some but this kind of relationship has actually cost a lot of marriages.
So, let's look at this angle. Why should another man or woman be your best friend when actually your spouse can fill in that position?
Imagine your wife knowing that you want to hang out with another woman or your husband knowing that you constantly hang around with another man who is your best friend.
Trust me, your spouse will get uncomfortable with time not because they have trust issues but because they know that there is something about a constant togetherness of two opposite sex.
There is a certain thrill that comes with being close to someone who is different from your partner, someone who understands you in a way that your spouse doesn't. It's like having a secret that only the two of you share, a connection that is both exhilarating and dangerous.
What starts out as harmless banter could soon escalate into something more. Feelings get mixed up. Feelings have no respect for anyone whether you are married or not; and when this happens, infidelity is knocking and before you know it, you are in too deep.
Your heart may be torn between two people, leaving you feeling guilty, confused and unable to decide which path to take. Lol, funny!
On the one hand , you have your spouse, the person you vowed to love and cherish for the rest of your life. you know that your marriage is important, and that you should do everything to make it work.
But on the other hand, you have your friend, the person who makes you feel alive and understood, the one who makes you question whether you settle for less. It's a tricky situation.
Do you risk everything for a fleeting thrill, or do you stay true to your commitment and prioritize your marriage?
At the end of the day, what matters most is honesty, communication and respect. If you are feeling tempted by a close opposite friendship, talk to your spouse about it.
Explain how you feel, what you are struggling with and listen to their perspective as well. Together, you can navigate this tricky situation and come out stronger on the other side.
The tempting risk of close opposite friendship in marriage may be alluring but it's not worth risking your marriage for.
In conclusion, being married does not mean we can't have friends from the opposite sex.
We need to balance our platonic relationships with our marriage, maintain transparency, and set clear boundaries to avoid conflicts and strengthen our relationship.
Remember that friendship can enrich our lives and marriages if done in a healthy and respectful way.
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