How to Live Beyond a Life of Comparison

  • Author: Praise Ejiro

  • Last Update On: 18-Jan-2023 23:37:32pm

  • Category: Education, Relationship

  • Topic: Advice, Inspiration, Self Help

How to Live Beyond a Life of Comparison

I lost count on how numerous times my parent compared me with my friends. Whatever you didn't do well would always be compared to that girl or that boy close to you that is doing it very well. This could be so annoying because it was doing something inside of you and our parents, I guess they didn't know this. I guess they felt that the only way to make us up and doing is when they make you see that you're not doing well by making you to see others like you doing that same thing well. This seed they planted usually grows with us. So as an adult, you see people or things and unconsciously you are already comparing it to your life. I think we all confront the risk that comes with comparison. 

Comparison brings you to a point of competition. You are good already in whatever you are doing but when you look at people who you might think they are doing better than you, you'll start feeling like you're not doing enough and the urge to meet up to the person and even further would be your drive always. It's good to improve yourself not because you are competing with anyone else.

Comparison breeds jealousy and you might not know it until you are consumed with it. Two things happen to you when you look at the progress of someone. It’s either you are inspired, or you are intimidated. Why should you be intimidated in the first place? God created everyone in a unique way, and you are the best version of yourself. You won't know this until you learn to appreciate everything about yourself. Your looks, your body size, and the shape of your mouth, the way you talk, and the way you walk, etc. The irony of all these is that the person you have always thought to be better than you actually admire one thing about you that you don't know.... it might not necessarily be that person but certainly there's someone out there who admires and also desires that thing you possess. So, before you start feeling intimidated about something or someone just remember that you are unique too.

Comparison brings you to a point of depression. One major cause of depression is the feeling that comes when you feel you are behind in life. You see your friends that you think that they are ahead of you in school, in finance, in business, in possessions etc.... and you are just there probably struggling with everything. You feel cut off, lonely, sad, angry and at this point, different thoughts begin to come to mind. Before you do anything stupid, remember that everyone has a different path in life. The world is big enough for everyone to be who they want to be, and life is in seasons. Sometimes it is hard to accept this truth, but time tells, and change is constant. Wherever and however, you are, be grateful. Appreciate your small wins.

You will stop comparing yourself with others when you have learnt to know your purpose.

Are you going through life with little direction? Trusting that you’ll discover joy, wellbeing and success? Recognize your life reason or purpose and that will be your starting point because that would guide everything you want to do. 

Mores, knowing your needs helps you to be satisfied with yourself.

Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? There are so many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get them met before it’s too late!

Don’t base your needs on what other people expect from you. 

Discovering your passion is a major way of seeing the better you.

You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt fear and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you. You don't have to look at the limitations. Learn from those who are already in the line of your passion. Bring it out for the world to know what you are good at. Stay put on it. What you stay put expands.

Learn to also live from the inside out. This increases your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Learn to listen to your inner self. Have a quiet moment with yourself. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. In my case I often just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical music. There’s sound, yes, but music does soothe the soul.

Nothing beats the feeling that comes with knowing your worth and not comparing yourself with anyone. Everyone is unique in their own way and you are the best version of yourself. Always remember that.



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